It took me a while to get to this point whereby I can let things go without it hurting too much. Yes, I still miss him at times but it is getting better and better with every passing day.

This Valentine’s Day is just too soon to be buying him a gift. Perhaps the next Valentine’s Day when more than a year has passed and we are back to being normal friends that I may think of buying a gift.

Nevertheless, I think if I were to decide on gifts for an ex-boyfriend, I would first evaluate what message I want to send. After all, if you just want to be friends from now on, you can’t be buying stuff like under garments, right? That just wouldn’t be right.

Gifts For An Ex-Boyfriend: What’s The Message?

If the message is friendship, I think I would consider something useful and practical such as a coffee mug. It is not an expensive gift that will make him think too much and you can also make it doubly obvious by having the word “Friends” on it, if the relationship is still carrying some feelings of uncertainty that you want to extinguish completely.

I think items that will send out a similar message would be things like pen holder, clock, tool set and book. Things that are simply everyday practical items that nobody would think that there is a hidden message somewhere.

If the message is hope of reuniting, then perhaps the gift should also make that obvious. Anything that signifies love, couple and romance would be ideal like figurines, crystals, roses and heart-shaped items.

On the other hand, if you just want to test the waters rather than making it too obvious of what you are after, then I would think a card or poster with a vague message that borders between friendship and lovers may be more suitable. That way, he would have to figure it out what it all means rather than it being a straight-forward deduction just by looking at the gift.

If the message you want to send is one of forgiveness, then your sincerity must also shine through. I think for this purpose a heartfelt poem would do wonders. Any personalized gifts might also work such as etching the words “I’m sorry” on things like a bracelet, picture frame and glass block.

Lastly, if you absolutely hate your ex and you want him to know that, well, why bother getting him a gift? Buy yourself this instead and wear it when you know you will run into him at some place:

Don’t like a t-shirt? Then, settle for a cap, tote bag, sweater or whatever that makes you feel good and will clearly show your message for all to see!