How To Forget My Ex-Boyfriend
December 23, 2009 by
Filed under Miss My Ex
Many friends have given me advice on how to forget my ex-boyfriend and just move on. It is not easy, especially when the break up is still fairly new. You certainly cannot forget about someone overnight because memories stay with you, no matter how much you want them to go away.
I have to admit that I have not yet put the whole break up behind me although I’m trying. There are times that I think of getting him back and there are also times that I tell myself that I should move on.
I think how to forget my ex-boyfriend requires patience. Because I know I won’t be able to just forget the times we shared together in one week or even one year. The person is special and he will always be. So, I know it will be hard to get over him. It doesn’t mean I can’t try but it also doesn’t mean I should rush the process and start dating again, when my heart is still hurting.
Many people have told me that I should get on the social scene and start meeting new guys as a way to forget my ex. It offers a distraction, no doubt, and when you are distracted, you will think of the person less. It might work for some, but I don’t think it will work for me simply because I’m quite a sentimental person. I also don’t like the idea of using someone else to forget my own pain. As experts say, relationships on the rebound never tend to work anyway.
What I’m Doing To Forget Him
So, if I’m not going to date again anytime soon, how can I forget about my ex? I suppose I can try to think of him less for a start. To do so, I have removed a lot of things in my room that remind me of him. I have hid all the photos and gifts. I have replaced his photo in my purse with that of my nieces. I have not called him and I have erased the text messages and emails he had sent when we were together. I figured that I should remove the temptation of wanting to look at them and dwell on the past.
The only thing I have not deleted is his phone number. Not that it made a difference because his contact number and address are actually etched in my brain. Maybe as time passes, the memory will fade or the contact details will change but for the time being, those items still stay in my records.
I have also streered clear of the places we used to frequent. The reasons being I don’t want to bump into him and I don’t need the reminder of the things we used to do at these places. It’s another way to put more distance between me and him as I seek out new places to go.
To occupy my mind and time, rather than dating, I have found a little comfort in taking up an activity I have been interested in for quite some time but never got around to doing it. Now that I have the time, I have bought myself a new camera and started learning photography. I’m thinking that if I can sustain this interest, I will even start a photography blog! That will certainly takes care of all the time I have on my hands and provide me with the required distraction.
I also talk to my girlfriends and I’m thankful that they have stood by me thoughout this episode. They make me laugh at times, which is good to release all the stress of coping with a break up. At least, they help me to forget about my ex momentarily while I’m with them.
Can all these make me forget my ex-boyfriend for good? Of course not. As I have said, it will be hard to put all this behind me. I may not be able to forget him, but I know they help to make time passes by faster and with it, the pain lessens somewhat.
